1. Use a gentle manor with a light mood. If the child resists, try asking him/her for good reasons that you would identify with, and explain why some reasons are not good enough. Try giving good reasons for making the child do what you want that the child might identify with.
2. Find a way to make you not seem like the slave driver. Some people use a whiteboard or a bulletin board. This reduces the confrontational nature of any tasks you ask your child to complete. Avoid using another person as a scape goat. If possible, make these plans with your child, because if your child has too much time alone he/she may convince his/her self that the schedule is unfair.
3. Try not to stand over your child while he/she slaves away. This is not only frustrating, it gives your child the idea that you are lazy and possibly incompetent. If you have nothing else to do, help your children with their chores or go somewhere inaccessible to them. Helping your child often makes your child do a better job and strengthens work ethic.
4. Try not to get angry when your child misbehaves. If your child tries to play silly immature games with you, just go and do something else until the child loses interest. If you find an activity that makes it easy for you to assert your authority without upsetting your child, find any excuse to do that activity so you can strengthen the sense of authority you have with your child.

One big issue is with time you do not spend with your child. Most parents don't think about their children while they are away except to worry about physical harm. The truth is that any good parent is with their child in spirit. To accomplish this you must keep track of the time your child spends away from you and casually ask your child how they budgetted their time. This can be started by simply asking about how the child's day at school went. You should not ask about everything all at once because it may take time for your child to open up to you, depending on how you treat your child already.
In addition to asking about your child's day, try to get your child to ask you about your day. Accounting for yourselves is a good way to build trust and bond. Do not make up stories, and if you suspect your child is making up stories, make sure to show that you are hurt or disappointed instead of unbelieving. If your child is having problems, don't just listen and act sorry for them, make an agreement with him/her for you to help get them resolved.

Understanding is the most valuable thing you can instill into your child. If you do something that you haven't explained to your child, explain it and make sure he/she understands. Some things that should not be done in front of children can be explained to make it less  traumatic to them, and make sure that you justify or condemn your actions. Your children are not simply immature and stupid dependents that you are not accountable to, they are future adults who will do any bad thing that they remember seeing you do, and they will probably do them worse.

Abuse is a topic of debate from time to time. Trauma is a good way to make some children remember not to do a bad thing, but there are other kinds of children who constantly forget and make things such as spanking into a futile and scarring activity. These children usually have an adult friend who is very nice and very good at getting him/her to do things. Other kids often simply have memory problems or they may have too much time on their hands which leads to hyperactivity. There may be a line between punishment and abuse, but that line is better not crossed at all. It is especially important to be careful around children under two years old.

Until my next parenting update, I'd enjoy reading how I am wrong and this is a failure, possibly, feel free to comment.